Well, this weekend was fun! We had beautiful weather here and my husband and I enjoyed being with our families for Mother's Day. This weekend my husband's parents had come back from Lake Havasu where they own an RV Pad.. not sure how long they will be back for, but I assume for 2 months or so. While over at their house, we had discussed with them how we are trying to pay off debt. My husband sort of suggested at one point before they had come home, that we could move out of our apartment and move into their house since they are not using it. It would help us save money if they would allow us to pay $200 for staying there each month, so that we can pay off our other debts. In theory, this is actually a really good idea... but for some reason I still get anxiety over it. I REALLY treasure our privacy... and if they are wanting us to move out sometime soon, that means we would be sharing living spaces... again... and I remember vividly how well that worked out the first time (*Cue Eyes Rolling*).
I think if we can respect each other as adults, then it could work out. I was telling my husband that we should try to have it worked out as they get the top half of the house and we get the bottom, or vice versa, I don't care as long as we have our privacy. My husband reminded me that they have their RV now, and they even suggested that they could live in the RV. I think it should be totally different now that we are married, but I know his parents well.... this could be a train wreck. I also feel that they will make us feel like we OWE them something if we did move in. Their payment is like $800 / month, and if we are only paying $200, I feel like they will bring that up. I enjoy having my weekends off, even though working during the week isn't THAT strenuous. I like not having someone telling me what I should be doing... that can get really irritating. I'm a grown woman, I am capable of making decisions and I also know what I need to be doing. I really don't need that reminder constantly. BUT, if I listen to my husband, and TRUST that we only have to have them around for a couple of months, I MIGHT be okay with that.. but I did let him know that even if they are gone, I want out of there ASAP. It just reminds me so much of all the negativity throughout my husband's life, and it absorbs right into my life as well.
My husband and I will be discussing those plans further and hopefully everything works out. We are also discussing merging our checking accounts and consolidating debt onto 1 credit card. Another thing that we need to get done ASAP in my opinion. I should be able to handle that on my own, but I would like my husband's opinion as well by being there with me when we do this. I suppose we could do it together in the morning sometime before this Wednesday, since my boss is gone until then. Need to.
I have been reading NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children by Ashley Merryman. So far, this has been very insightful. I do think to myself as I am reading that well, of course that makes sense.. why do I do that? I have always struggled with connecting to children it seems like... like I am exerting way too much effort to be the best sort of role model, but it shouldn't be hard. I am realizing that now as I am going through the book. Just need to keep it simple... stupid. hah.
Hoping this day doesn't drag ass today...
No comments:
Post a Comment