Duff Beer for Me, Duff Beer for You

Wait... Where's my Beer?

My husband and I had a conversation yesterday about what we want in life, what our goals are. Being newly-weds, we are just beginning to find out that our ideas don't mesh completely together as one cohesive idea (What the Hell?!). All I have been hearing is what HE wants... but what the Hell do I want? I want to be happy too, where's my Duff Beer at?

Thus far... my plan as a wife was to have a job as a second income, not bringing home the thick strips of bacon, but some bacon bits to help support our lifestyle habits. I wanted to go to my job, which I do currently enjoy quite a bit, come home and then relax with my husband. This is a key point of happiness for me. Our situation isn't where I had pictured it at all though... but I suppose that is what most people would respond to me as, "Life". As a planner, this can get very frustrating... but what can I do about it? Make a new plan I guess?

Another goal that I have been thinking about is actually getting out of this area. I have lived in this small tri-city farming community for 17 years, I have grown very comfortable staying here around most all of my family. I feel that in order to experience this life, that I should at least TRY to move away for a while, and experience things on my own without the comfort of family support. This would also mean moving away from what little friends are left here to attempt to make new ones. This is kind of scary to me, but now that I am thinking about it... if I get involved in Co-Ed sports, I could easily make friends with those who have the same interests as I do! Maybe I will start looking at new areas in Oregon to explore and see if Hubby is down for it? (OOOoo! Now I am getting kind of excited about the thought of it!)

The last major goal, was to own a house... we aren't sure where we want our homestead to be, but our goal is to find one eventually. A couple of ideas that we have talked about was buying a home then starting an 'isolation-tank' business from out of a shop we would have. We not only could use the tank ourselves therapeutically, but it could be a source of income. I am not completely sure about that idea, but I suppose I would need to research the up-keep of the tanks to get a good feel for it. We had also discussed traveling. I am not sure if we would be able to travel AS WELL as own a home.. we aren't sure what would be more expensive at this point... to rent and travel, or own and travel. We want to travel for about a month somewhere to take in culture of another country, just need to be able to plan that b*tch out first somehow...

So..

1. Successful & Happy Career/Job
2. Moving out of Town
3. Buying a Home and/or Traveling.

Can anyone help us decide what order we should do these things in? It is driving both of us crazy...